Glad to Help You!

Ahh, the 70s!
Ahh, the 70s!
Oh, yes, that would be me, a bit more recently, on the left.

    For me, to take death seriously is to take life seriously.  And this whole

web site is not really about death.  It is about making the most of life!

    I first became interested in death when, during seminary education,

I saw so many needs that were not met.   People were ripped-off by the

funeral industry, the grieving were shunned, the dying were neglected.

    Since my father is from England, and we had visited there many times,

I knew about hospice care and was determined to provide it here.  In the

mid seventies I helped establish the third hospice in this country, and

went on to found two more.  With hospice, I've been everything from

bed-pan-changer to president.

    As a priest, I soon found that much of my work dealt with loss. Not just

physical human death, but other losses as well.  It was a privilege to enter

into others' lives during times of loss such as having a mastectomy, being

fired, getting divorced, moving, encountering the "empty nest", losing an

animal companion, and so on.  My interest in death brought skills to my

work across the board.

    Also during the seventies, I introduced and taught death education at

Auburn University.  My curiosity about this one inescapable certainty of

life's mysteries continued to grow.  And, I must admit, I enjoyed the

challenge of studying a taboo field which, at that time, was quite young. 

So, for decades I have continued to learn about death and loss, and

I'd like to think I've helped others.  But I can assure you that I have

learned far more from my students, from the bereaved, and from the

dying than I ever brought to them!